Thriving in the Empty Nest Era

As a parent, it was easy to lose myself in the whirlwind of raising my children/teens. My focus shifted from my own dreams and aspirations to ensuring our kids have everything they needed to succeed. But when they left for college, the transition to an empty nest has an opportunity to leave us feeling lost and unsure of what's next. 

This is the perfect opportunity to ask yourself:

"What are three things I've always wanted to do but put on hold for my kids?"

Rediscovering Yourself

1. Reignite an Old Passion

One of the most common dreams that parents put on hold is pursuing a passion or hobby they loved before becoming parents. It could be;

• painting
• playing a musical instrument
• gardening, or
• even writing.

Now that the kids are gone, it's time to reignite that passion.

• Join a local art class,
• Sign up for music lessons, or
• Start that garden you've always wanted.

These activities not only bring joy but also allow you to reconnect with a part of yourself that may have been dormant for years.

2. Travel to New Places

Traveling is often a dream that gets postponed due to the demands of parenting. Whether it's exploring a new country or simply taking a road trip, travel can be a rewarding way to celebrate your new freedom.

• Start by planning a short trip to a nearby destination, then gradually expand your horizons.
• Consider traveling with friends or joining a group tour if you're hesitant to go alone.

Embrace the adventure and use this time to create new memories for yourself.

3. Pursue Further Education

If you've always wanted to learn something new or further your education, the empty nest phase provides an excellent opportunity.

• Consider taking a course at a local college, learning a new language, or earning a certification in a field of interest.

Pursuing education can boost your confidence and open doors to new career opportunities. It also provides a structured way to spend your time while broadening your horizons.

Making Your Dreams Happen

While it's exciting to consider these possibilities, it can also feel overwhelming. Here's how you can turn these dreams into reality:

1.  Start Small

• Begin with one activity or goal.
  • It could be as simple as signing up for a class or planning a day trip.

• Gradually build on these small steps.

2. Seek Support

• Connect with other empty nesters or join a support group.

• Sharing your journey with others can provide motivation and accountability.

3. Embrace the Change

Remember that this transition is a natural part of life.

• Instead of dwelling on the absence of your children, focus on the opportunities that lie ahead.

4. Celebrate Achievements

As you accomplish each of your goals, take time to celebrate. 

• Acknowledge your progress and use it as motivation to continue pursuing your dreams.

The empty nest challenge is a chance to rediscover yourself and pursue the dreams you've put on hold. 

With the right mindset and a little courage, you can create a fulfilling future filled with new adventures and meaningful experiences.

Start today, and embrace this exciting chapter of your life.

Author:

Dr. Michelle Lloyd

Transition Success Coach