Creating Traditions to Stay Close with Your Teen

The transition to college can feel like a major shift for both teens and parents. As your teen moves into this new phase of independence, it can leave a gap in family routines and traditions. But instead of focusing on what you’ve lost, this is an opportunity to create new traditions that fit the evolving dynamics of your family.

Here are a few ideas to help you build meaningful connections and keep the bond strong with your teen during this exciting time:

1. Virtual Family Nights

Even if your teen is away at college, you can still maintain regular family time. 

• Consider virtual game nights, 
• movie marathons, or 
• cooking the same meal together and sharing the experience through a video call. 

This can help preserve the closeness of family time, even when physically apart.

2. Care Packages and Letters

• Sending care packages with thoughtful, personal items or writing heartfelt letters is a great way to maintain the emotional connection. 

These small acts of care show your teen you’re thinking of them, making them feel loved and supported while they navigate their new environment.

3. Yearly Family Trips

Even if your teen's schedule is packed, planning a family vacation or weekend getaway once a year can give everyone something to look forward to. This becomes a way to create new memories and bond, even when the day-to-day life is more spread out.

4. Support Their Independence

Sometimes, the best tradition is one that supports your teen's growing independence. 

• Encourage them to establish their own traditions at college, but also set aside time to check in regularly, either through calls, texts, or video chats. 

Establishing a routine for checking in can give both you and your teen peace of mind.

5. Create a "New Year" Ritual

At the start of every school year, establish a new ritual that is specific to this transition. This could be;

• a special breakfast, 
• a letter-writing exchange, or 
• setting new family goals for the year. 

Starting fresh with a ritual each year helps redefine your connection in light of the changes.

6. Share Their Achievements

Celebrate milestones and achievements together, whether it’s acing a big test, starting a new job, or just settling into their dorm. Finding ways to celebrate, even from afar, reinforces their sense of accomplishment and your pride in them.

The transition to college is an emotional and significant time for both parents and teens. While it may feel like some traditions are fading away, this moment offers the perfect opportunity to create new traditions that foster a continued connection, growth, and support. 

By maintaining a positive outlook and adjusting to the changes with love and flexibility, you’ll create new traditions that will carry your family through this exciting chapter

Author:

Dr. Michelle Lloyd

Transition Success Coach